I belong to some wedding planning Facebook groups, and it seems like everyone is getting engaged. After all, it is engagement season. One thing I’m noticing is that these couples have no idea where to start. They’re posting to these groups asking, “What do I do?” Well, let’s start with the basics. Here are a few things to do after you get engaged.
Get Your Planner
If you can afford to hire a planner, this is the time to get one. Hiring your planner early gives them more time to help and be involved in the process. A full-service planner can help with the next steps I’m going to talk about or they can come in after the following steps. Unsure if it’s worth hiring one? Check out our blog post about it here!
Figure out Your Budget
Your budget is priority number one so be sure to do this right after you get engaged. It helps decide things like venue, guest list, and what kind of meal you can afford. Look at your finances, talk to the parental figures in your life, and put together a number that makes sense. Then, your planner can help you organize where that money is going to go. If you can’t afford a planner, look up a budget breakdown, and allocate the funds based on what is important to you.
Write Down Your Guest List
There are typically four guest lists. Your guests, your future spouse’s guests, your parents’ guests, and your future spouse’s parents’ guests. Everyone has to make their list. Then, the couple needs to come together to create the final list as well as the dreaded B-list. It seems harsh, I know, but a B-list is crucial so make sure you create one. Again, this step is important because it affects things like the venue. You can’t pick a venue until you know how many people have to fit in it.
Pick Your Date and Your Venues
This part is a little tricky since you could be doing this simultaneously. These two things are pretty connected, but it depends on what’s important to you. For instance, if the location is most important because you have a specific venue in mind, then you’ll probably take whatever date they have that’s in the general season you want. On the other hand, if the date itself is the most important, then you’ll need a venue that works with that date. With both things, flexibility is key.
There you are. The four most important things to do after you get engaged. This isn’t everything, obviously, but it does give you a starting point to work with.